Comments on: Invasion of the Invisible Purple Women http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/ don't wake me with so much Tue, 27 Apr 2010 13:26:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Octopus Knits http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/comment-page-1/#comment-1202 Octopus Knits Sat, 01 Dec 2007 22:09:35 +0000 http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/#comment-1202 Very interesting post. My husband and I don't plan to have children. If we ever feel financially and mentally capable, we will adopt. There are so many children out there who need someone already - I seriously can't imagine why anyone would undergo fertility treatments. It's a bit selfish, I think, to prize blood over all else. Not to mention, more people means more stress on our already strained environment. Everybody having babies is not sustainable. Ok, I'll shut-up now. Very interesting post. My husband and I don’t plan to have children. If we ever feel financially and mentally capable, we will adopt. There are so many children out there who need someone already – I seriously can’t imagine why anyone would undergo fertility treatments. It’s a bit selfish, I think, to prize blood over all else. Not to mention, more people means more stress on our already strained environment. Everybody having babies is not sustainable. Ok, I’ll shut-up now.

]]> By: Tarre http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/comment-page-1/#comment-942 Tarre Fri, 16 Nov 2007 13:45:44 +0000 http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/#comment-942 My mother-in-law and her family have never questioned my desire not to have children- they all know how bad the broodstock is, and I don't mean *my* side of the line. Most of the sane ones of his family are gay, and I like to think it's so they won't breed. My mom, well, it took her a while to realize it was a good thing. She's finally admitted that me not breeding is probably in my best interest. And when she whined about her last grandchild being her last grandchild ever, I told her to stop looking at me in that tone of voice. Since then, my sister announced she's popping another puppy, and all is right in mom's world. Whether or not my sister ought to be popping another puppy is a whole nother issue, but I have enough to deal with for my own issues. My mother-in-law and her family have never questioned my desire not to have children- they all know how bad the broodstock is, and I don’t mean *my* side of the line. Most of the sane ones of his family are gay, and I like to think it’s so they won’t breed.

My mom, well, it took her a while to realize it was a good thing. She’s finally admitted that me not breeding is probably in my best interest. And when she whined about her last grandchild being her last grandchild ever, I told her to stop looking at me in that tone of voice. Since then, my sister announced she’s popping another puppy, and all is right in mom’s world. Whether or not my sister ought to be popping another puppy is a whole nother issue, but I have enough to deal with for my own issues.

]]> By: Philadelphia Bunnyface http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/comment-page-1/#comment-930 Philadelphia Bunnyface Fri, 16 Nov 2007 03:46:33 +0000 http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/#comment-930 The response to your mother-in-law in the receiving line was PRICELESS. Good for you for setting her straight right out of the gate! The response to your mother-in-law in the receiving line was PRICELESS. Good for you for setting her straight right out of the gate!

]]> By: Laiane http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/comment-page-1/#comment-929 Laiane Fri, 16 Nov 2007 03:29:11 +0000 http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/#comment-929 Oh, no, I do not question your lack of vocalness! My dissatisfaction with the "baby pushers" (or the "baby brainwashed") is their inability to see another's view. I won't label myself invisible because they simply don't get it. It's sort of like the Eleanor Roosevelt quote, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Something close to that. I'm sorry to hear of your bad experience within your own family. My family, thankfully, doesn't undermine or second-guess me. I certainly would feel invisible if that were the case. Oh, no, I do not question your lack of vocalness!

My dissatisfaction with the “baby pushers” (or the “baby brainwashed”) is their inability to see another’s view. I won’t label myself invisible because they simply don’t get it. It’s sort of like the Eleanor Roosevelt quote, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Something close to that.

I’m sorry to hear of your bad experience within your own family. My family, thankfully, doesn’t undermine or second-guess me. I certainly would feel invisible if that were the case.

]]> By: Angry Grrl http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/comment-page-1/#comment-928 Angry Grrl Fri, 16 Nov 2007 03:08:45 +0000 http://itsfuriousbalancing.com/index.php/2007/11/15/invasion-of-the-invisible-purple-women/#comment-928 For me, my main reason for saying that I feel invisible at times is not for any lack of vocalness on my part about my childfree status, oh no, not at all, and I hope my post didn't give that impression. I've always, always been up-front and adamant about never wanting children. I've never made a secret of that. When my sister got married, I was all of 19 years old. Her wedding reception hadn't even started yet when my maternal grandmother started in on me about when was *I* going to get married and start having kids! She was a shrill harpy of a woman, and I don't miss her. I eventually married another childfree person, and she kept right on with the "when are you going to have children" bit, until I finally exploded on her and said that I thought that some people just shouldn't have children, period. For me, my main reason for saying that I feel invisible at times is not for any lack of vocalness on my part about my childfree status, oh no, not at all, and I hope my post didn’t give that impression. I’ve always, always been up-front and adamant about never wanting children. I’ve never made a secret of that.

When my sister got married, I was all of 19 years old. Her wedding reception hadn’t even started yet when my maternal grandmother started in on me about when was *I* going to get married and start having kids! She was a shrill harpy of a woman, and I don’t miss her. I eventually married another childfree person, and she kept right on with the “when are you going to have children” bit, until I finally exploded on her and said that I thought that some people just shouldn’t have children, period.

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