Comments on: Giving Sorrow Words

By: Shannon

Shannon — Tue, 18 Dec 2007 05:20:31 +0000

This is my first visit to the site. Found it on Ravelry and checked it out b/c you, too, are a Michigan knitter. This post really touched my heart. We went through the same thing, including the symptomatology and options with our dog right before Thanksgiving. We made the same choice and even though you know it’s the best thing for them, it hurts like hell.
I just wanted to say that I’m sorry for your loss and for the pain that I know you’re feeling. No lame encouragement about how “it gets better” blah, blah, blah. Bullshit!! Just pure sympathy and a little empathy as well. Gregor sounds like he was a wonderful cat and that he was well loved and returned that love. Again, so sorry for your loss.

By: Spike

Spike — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 16:53:50 +0000

I think that sharing this hurt like you are, anonymously to the world, actually helps in different ways. Helps you maybe to move toward acceptance and helps others. When others read your words and feel the hurt, compassion and empathy can result. And it is a good thing to feel empathy and compassion. If sharing feelings, like did here, can cultivate those compassion and empathy in others (like me), people are more human. My cats are great and I will miss them terribly when they’re gone. I know this day will come and thinking about it makes me appreciate the “now” all the more. Thanks for sharing.

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 22:41:28 +0000

Oh, I am so sorry to read about Gregor. No wonder you’re devastated. I lost my special boy this summer and, I hate to say it, but I still cry when I think about him.

Don’t settle for the pittance of comfort offered by the knowledge that there was nothing you could do to fix the situation, or that you did the right thing (though both, obviously, are true). Go ahead and feel sorry for yourself. You’ve suffered a loss.

I wish I had more poignant or wise things to say. But it’s too emotional a topic to think about anything other than I’m sorry about Gregor, and you’ll be in my thoughts. Cry a lot. Expect to see ghosts. And stay as strong as you can.

By: Octopus Knits

Octopus Knits — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 16:32:29 +0000

Oh, man… Gregor sounds like such a sweetie… If you were not feeling the “irrational grief” in a big way right now, I would worry about you.

By: Tarre

Tarre — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 09:31:46 +0000

Grief is very very natural for your special one. Don’t fight it. If anyone tells you to “just get over it, it’s only a cat”- they deserve to be beaten severely, and then told to “get over it, it’s only flesh wound.” I still miss my Colin. We used to sleep cheek to cheek on the couch when I had my naps as one example of my favorite boy cat.

I’m sorry for my slightly rude post earlier. My Kenya Dog is the first gift Jakys ever gave me that I really appreciated. And she was just diagnosed with bladder cancer. She’s on a new medication that is helping a great deal, so we’re going to let her continue as long as she seems comfortable. But I would never ever wish this on another person and I don’t like seeing my friends in pain. It’s enough for me to go through it. I wish no one else ever had to. I’m still sorry about your Gregor.